Wednesday, December 23, 2009

Should you tell your partner Everything. .

Whats up guys. . . . How have u been? Probably enjoying the xmas season right. . . Or Not. . Anyway i wish u guys merry xmas and all the best. .

I also want to thank u everyone who has contributed to my blog in one way or the other through ur comments, etc i really really appriciate it.

I was reading a blog the other day and i cant really remember the blog name. . But the person was talking about looking back at the things she wrote maybe years later n be like, this is how i used to reason while i was a teeneger or so so years old. .

So am keeping this blog, writing anything i feel like, no matter how stupid it may sound hoping that one day, in the nearest or farthest future, i can look back at what i ve written, my ideas, thoughts, theories about life and everything and laugh. . ... .

So back to my thought 4 today. . ..

how much should your partner know about you. Is it right to tell him or her everything that goes on in your day to day life or are there things you should keep to your self. .

If so how much should one keep to him/her self. .

Still on the same issue when you do something wrong no matter what it is, most especially cheat on your spouse. . Is it right to tell him or her even when you know they might never find out. . And it doesnt seem neccessary,

what should be your reason for confessing even at the detriment of your relationship. I.e when it might affect your relationship negatively, why cause a trouble you can avoid by just keeping a little secret. .

Do you agree with me that most times we confess a wrong simply becos we feel guilty and we want the other person to share our burden. Is that really neccessary?
Dont you think its only reasonable that we bear the burden of our guilt, instead of causing the other person a pain he/she doesnt deserve , which could have been avoided by keeping a few things to your self.

I ve always advocated telling your partner everything infact, i tell mine everytin, no matter how right or wrong that thing might be. .

Yet every time i tell someone that i dont have any secrets, am always told that i should keep certain things to my self that im beggining to think they might be right.

even proffessionals will say its ok to keep a few things to your self. .

So What do you think. ?
What are the things u cant share with your partner in a relationship or marriage, . .wether its about your bu$siness, money issues, sexual affairs etc. . Or will u share just about everything and anything. .
Will love to know ur view. .

Merry xmas and have fun. .

Monday, December 14, 2009


Hello everyone,
how have you guys been. Hope u ve been great. For me, well its been pretty much like a drama anyway. I know i said this post will be a continuation of the stuffs i talked about on my last post but change is constant so. . . .

Its been like 2 months now since i joined blogsville or has it been 3. . Yes . No . .maybe

i remember why i joined blogsville, twas cos of my sister, yes ! I have a sister here in blogsville, same blood and everything.

Guess who it is?

Guess right and win a price. . Lol

Well she was always talking about her blog, her blog, this her blog that for almost a year or two she went on about this blog thing and i tot, i must find out what it is about blogging that makes her go on about it everytime.

And i did, i joined blogsville, a newbie, not knowing my left from my right about blogging, i didnt even know how to write my first post and she was of so much help. Infact my first post was her idea and i thank her for that, cos till now i would have been thinking about what to write and how to go about it. Lol.

Having her here was grt and wierd at the same time. Cos . . . . . . . . .you know now.. .
But that has changed, now the weirdness is gone. Its just great. Sis dont u think so. .?

My blog is going tru a phase, am almost at the verge of deleting it. . Dont run away now. ! Am just kidding. .

The first few weeks of blogging was grt. Meeting new friends/people. Etc but i feel the fun is begining to wear off. 'for a whole lot of reasons

i had an idea of what i wanted my blog to be all about but i seem to be diverting. . So am kinda trying to figure out the kind of things i want to be writing about but till then
.. . . . . .

Recently i ve been having this feeling of wanting to just say . . .L.i.f.e S.u.c.k.s yeah i said it and ironically i feel better. Dont get me wrong my life is beautiful, just that atimes . . . Hmmm

i went to visit sb today and her child was crying, i carried the baby as she stopped crying, and i had this feeling, i just wanted to have a baby and knew then that i would love him/her and he/her will make me happy. I felt all that while holding that child and believe me it was a great feeling. Yet thats gonna have to wait except i want my parents to skin me alive. . . Lol

To all my blog followers. .i just wanna say This blog is still here cos of u, thanks a grt deal

to those who read my blog without leaving comments and those that do leave comments well i appreciate it.

And i wont forget to add, sis please dont kill me for talking about you in my post, hope u dont mind. And well no one even knows its you . .so Lol.

Have a grt week ahead and never mind my mumbings and jumblings of a post.. . .

Love 4rm moi

Thursday, November 26, 2009


Its the beauty of the morning
Its the tender rising sun
Its a piece of my heart falling
Asking why you are on the run

Could you not hear my heart calling
Like an infant crying child
Would i wake up in the noontime
To behold your graceful charm

Are you thinking what am thinking
Would you gladly give a miss
Are you scared of your heart breaking
If you give it one true kiss

Are you sharing in my fate now
Would my love not love me back
Do you hunger just like i now
Are you thirsty for my face.

so i ve been thinking about all this stuff, OBE (out of body experience), telepathy or mind control, lucid dreaming, astral travel and lot more. truth is i ve been doing a lot more than thinking about it, i 've been.... haha i ll gist you guys about it maybe in my next post. i just want to know kind of in advance, what do you guys think about those stuffs, i know for sure they exist. i mean the fact that you dont believe in it doesn't mean it doesnt exist. so have you ever thought about them or am i alone in my crazy discovery chanel. So if you have, how do you view it, is it ok for christians to practice such things and if you say its not, where is it written in your bible.?
Atimes i see the whole thing as VAIN, but isn't everything else in this world VANITY.

have a lovely week

Monday, November 23, 2009


There are a lot of things on my mind, a heavily armed lot, that right now
i feel like screaming , screaming on top of my voice, screaming my head off
just screaming aaaahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh.

screaming at MTN for being such a fucked up network, for not being able to
satisty her customers, for not keeping their freaking network stable.
for contineously stealing my credit, and for their numerous dubious ways.

screaming at power holding, for the really poor work they are doing, i mean
is nigeria ever going to be any better when it comes to giving us light, i wonder,
i just wonder.

screaming at life for being so unfair, you know some christian comfort
themselves with the idea of heaven, saying we are only strangers her etc etc so its only normal for us to suffer on earth and enjoy later in heaven
others say that christians should be able to enjoy there lives here, even before heaven
and i agree with them

but i feel like screaming because atimes it seems so difficult so damn difficult to
to be happy here screaming because everything seems to be spining around me,confusing,and choking.

screaming because there are so many things i dont understand, about God, about attraction, sexual attraction, about why good people die and the bad ones get to live.

screaming because this is not what i was supposed to post but i misplaced my diary today, so i had to improvise. i guess thats why all the need to scream started in the first place

All out... hmmmmmmmm!!! now i feel better.

thanks for being there

have a scream free week

Thursday, October 1, 2009

A friend

people of blogville i salute una ooo
happy independence day to everyone. .and again its a new month so wishing u all a beautiful beautiful month. . .

Im glad we are still in this together. Hope we will still be till next month. lol

how would u define a friend . . . There are lots and lots of defitions of a friend. . . but i do know that a friend is someone who cares enough to notice you are in pain or need without u neccessarily telling them and provides reasonable solution to ur need. . Thats a friend. . But how many of us are really trully friends. .and Do we act as one?

Here's a poem i wrote on a friend and am dedicating it to someone i met here in blogville, someone who has been more than a friend to moi n i guess to others too. .cos she has such a lovely heart. .

A friend

A friend is someone you can trust
with the whole of your heart
someone you can lean on
when you are not strong

A friend is one who reaches out for you
in all situations both good and bad
someone who never lets go
when the going gets tough

A friend is one who is ever willing to give
his time and all away
someone who takes your yoke
and makes it his or hers

though there be
quite a lot of friends
but difficult, it is
to find a friend so true
as i have found in you

to rose

Wednesday, September 2, 2009

The perfectionist

Wow! Last month was really splendid. hope it was for u.
Well its a new month,wishing u all the best.

I appreciate everyone who read my last post n left lovely comments. Thanks a lot.

Two contradicting quotes abt perfection

"Artists who seek
perfection in
everything are
those who do not
attain it in anything" gustave flaubert

"fix ur eyes on
perfection and u
make almost
everything speed
towards it" william ellery

As we walk through life we get to discover and understand ourselves.
The kind of person we are and atimes the reason why we do the things we do.

As we jorney thru life we go through a learning process,
learning about ourself, about others, about our environment and the universe at large.

During this jorney, i ve come to know myself more and more,
and understand why i do the things i do and lots more.

I ve come to discover that am very emotional and secretive etc.
Also i ve tendencies towards being a perfectionist.


Meet me: I cant take any action until am certain
its the perfect thing to do.

Before i say a word i go over it a million times in my head
puting it in perfect order before i say it out.

While writing i go over anything i ve written
a million times editing and polishing it,
most times it ends up losing its meaning.
And i ve to start all over again.

I can think of so many things i ve not said
just cos i was looking for d perfect way to say wats on my mind and couldn't find any.

I always set a high standard 4 my self, most times for others also and
it could be a problem when i or they fall short of it.

so it got me wondering,
do things ve to be perfect before we indulge in it?

are there times when good should be enough ?

do we waste our lives waiting for the perfect opportunities, perfect job, man, wife, book, writing, etc?

is there anything perfect in this world, or is perfect simply what you make of of it.

Is there hope 4 those who believe that something must be perfect b4 they take a leap?

I cant stop wondering
just hope the "i want it perfect" side of me wont start editing this till it loses its original meaning

oh she's trying so hard not to..

U could also share one or two things u ve discovered/learnt about ur self.

Nice week